Is It True Love, or Pure Lust?

Q: I always seem to think I am in love, but when the relationship is well underway, I realize it’s just lust. How can I tell the difference before I am in too deep?

A: Ah, the age-old question. Is it love or is it lust? There is no hard and fast way to tell if you are dating your soul mate or just a cute guy, and that’s part of the fun of dating. After all, it’s all about the exploration and excitement of unpeeling each new layer to get to the heart of whom that person really is. But, at the same time, it can be a bit of a dangerous game. As you say, it is not uncommon for people to get in too deep and suddenly realize, “Oops, I don’t think he’s ‘the one’ after all!”

A good way to make sure that you don’t fall into this trap is to sit and think about what you really want. Maybe the reason you aren’t meeting Mr. Right is because you are choosing not to. In other words, you might just be in a dating phase in which you want to sample the merchandise without making a lifetime commitment. That’s completely normal, but you might find yourself getting serious because you think that is what you are “supposed to” do. There are no “supposed to’s” in life, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. If you are in a lustful fun stage, embrace it! As long as you practice safer sex and respect your body and your heart, this can be a good growing experience and help you uncover what you need in a future partner.

If you are ready to settle down and get serious, then you should think about what you are really looking for in a partner. Think beyond the physical. Attraction is important, but it’s often something that can’t be put down in black-and-white. For instance, instead of saying, “He has to have a great body,” why not say “I want someone who is physically active and takes care of himself.” (Word to the wise: If you want to meet a guy who goes to the gym regularly that means you have to get your butt to the gym, too!)

You should also think beyond the superficial level. For instance, instead of thinking, “I want a man who makes six figures,” why not “I want a man who is ambitious and knows how to work hard.” At the end of the day, finances come and go, and in this economy, anyone can go bust. But if you are with a man who has a good work ethic and perseveres, then you won’t ever have to worry about paying the mortgage by yourself. (Again, if you want a man with a good work ethic, you’d better show some of that same initiative and drive as well! Like attracts like.)

When you take the focus off the obvious and look past the fleeting things in life (the six-pack abs and the corner office), you’ll be able to ask yourself: Are you sure that you like the person? Is he going to make you laugh at the end of a bad day? Is he going to take care of the kids when they are sick or remember your favorite candy at the supermarket? It’s often the little things that end up being the big things, and these are often the traits that separate lust from love. Remember, a great body will eventually age, but a great sense of humor is ageless!

— Dr. Laura Berman

 

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How do I discuss your sexual history with your partner

A: Many women (and men) are afraid to discuss their sexual histories with their current partners. For some people, their sexual past is filled with regret and disappointment, particularly if it involved booze-fueled one-night stands or infidelity. This is especially true for women, who are more likely to feel guilty about prior exploits. It is also more common for women to feel judged and to be subject to the proverbial double standard. A woman with a history is more likely to be looked down upon — and criticized — than a man. Even though we live in a modern era and are well aware that women have the same rights and desires as men, there is still a certain faction out there that believes “nice girls” don’t have sex…at least not without commitment or even marriage.

In reality, we know this isn’t true. Many women explore their sexual desires and fantasies with a number of different partners, and this is nothing to be ashamed of. Just as men have the right and the freedom to enjoy their sexuality, so should women. As long as both parties are willing and as long as safer-sex practices are employed, a rich sexual history can be fulfilling. Indeed, the more experienced and uninhibited you are, the more likely you will be in touch with your body and your own sexual response, which means that your committed relationship can be that much better. No shyness and fumbling in the dark for you two!

That being said, many couples can’t seem to get past the issue of…the past. Even the most committed and loving partners might find themselves fighting with ghosts of the past as they try to establish trust and intimacy in the present. Since this is such a common issue and one that many couples have discussed with me in therapy, I have established a few guidelines that can help you and your partner navigate it with ease:

1.       First, try to practice a form of “don’t ask, don’t tell” when it comes to the number of sexual partners. You don’t need to know that your man had 20 women before you, and he doesn’t need to know about the threesome you had in Cancun. The only questions two people should ever ask about sexual pasts are with regard to sexually transmitted infections; i.e., Have you ever had an STI? When is the last time you got tested? Questions such as these have a role in safer-sex practices, but unnecessary details and in-depth reminiscing are not required or advisable.

2.      Second, if you have already broken the first rule, it’s time for some immediate repair work. Don’t let it fester between you or become a bone of contention that gets brought up every time you have a fight. Be honest, upfront, and straightforward about the matter at hand, such as, “Yes, I have had a number of partners. I am sorry that upsets you, but it is in the past and I want to focus on the present with you. Is that something you can do?” If your partner can’t get past your past, then he might not be the right partner for you.

 

The same is true for you. If you don’t fully trust your partner because he used to be a player, then you either need to move on or seek help from a therapist who can help you establish healthy communication and trust. Until you put the past where it belongs, you can never have a future with your partner, or anyone else for that matter.

— Dr. Laura Berman

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Sean Paul - Got 2 Luv U Ft. Alexis Jordan [Official Music Video]

Destiny's Child - Cater 2 U

Ace Hood (feat. Trey Songz) - I Need Your Love (Official Music Video)

Rick Ross - Diced Pineapples (Explicit) ft. Wale, Drake

Kanye West - Clique ft. Big Sean & Jay-Z [Explicit Version]

Beyoncé - Love On Top

MSB pt4 - The Second Meeting

The second meeting…

We meet at the Navy Pier. I wore a pink floral knee high fitted top and flair bottom dress; he wore a pair of dark blue jean pants and a white polo shirt. When I got there he was waiting for me by his car a 2012 black Lincoln MKS. His dreads were pulled back he looked shape and clean just like I liked it. As I walked over to him his cologne wavered in the wind the smell was invigorating and it drew me straight into his arms. His embrace was all I needed for my stressful day to just fade away. We walked along the pier holding hands, laughing, talking the night was perfect. The sky was clear the stars were out it wasn’t too hot it wasn’t too cold. We were out there for hour and then it hit me I wanted this man and I wanted him tonight. He must off read it in my eyes, because at the very moment I thought (he should kiss me right now) I felt his fingertips under my chin as he guiding my face towards his. The kiss was surreal. We kissed for what felt like an hour, but it was seconds. I pulled back and blush a little. He said “did I do something wrong”, I said quickly “no!” you did everything right. I leaned over and whispered in his ear let’s leave here meet me at my hotel the Peninsula room 1202. As we walked back to our cars my heart raced at the thoughts that were going through my head. His car was parked nearer to us. As we got closer he pulled me in under his arms tighter as we walked hugging each other. We reached his car first - he pulled me into his arms and gave me another breath taking kiss. It was all over before I knew it I was my back flat on the back car seat of his car, my dress was up, his shirt was off and all 6ft at least 265 pounds was over me kissing me in places that made me shake, his hands was so powerful as they searched and explored my body. I couldn’t believe we were doing this, here. My heart raced with excitement, the thrill, the shame, the fantasy it was all so surreal. Then, he silenced my thoughts as this feeling of euphoria took over and I felt this warm feeling of power and masculinity going in and out of my body. It was a feeling I had never experienced before. I didn’t know what to do. It was overwhelming. It was so intense! It felt like he was releasing every desire, every want, and every erotic need into every stroke he delivered. This went on for about an hour. As we stared into each other’s eyes and I saw his intense passion and his every desire. He looked like he needed me as I needed him. My body collapsed about two second before his body collapsed. We just laid there in the heat of it all both speechless. After ever so long, I wasn’t sure of the time, my name, hell I wasn’t sure if I was allowed to drive after taking a drug like that. I said I had to go. I tried to pull myself together the best I could. I grab my purse a shameful smile came to my face as I asked “Darrin can you please pass my underwear” which was thrown behind him on the seat, he kissed it and then handed it to me. I stuffed it in my purse as I made haste to my car as lady-like as possible. As we both drove away, I had so many thoughts in my head. OMG!!! That was freaking amazing, it felt so dam good, fuck would I be wrong to call him first and say do you want to still come over… then I thought OMG!!! What if he thinks I’m a complete slut I mean, no dinner, no movies and bam we just got it in in the back of his car #sign he’s never going to call me. I totally forgot the rules of engagements…

MSB pt3- Our First meet up...

Our first meet up…

I was overly nervous over meeting this guy again for the first time since talking and getting to know each other I didn’t know what to expect and since it was like 6 months since I’ve seen a man up close, I wasn’t sure how I would act. I didn’t know where to meet him I mean I didn’t want him to know where I lived or too much about my personal surroundings until I got to know him better. We meet at this little café across the street from a sex shop called expressions. We both pulled up at the same time. I got out my car he stepped out his. Time to re-evaluate yeah he was still black, tall, and big. Then he hugged me and he smelled heavenly. His hug was strong, and I almost melted in his hands, I wondered if he noticed I collapsed a little he pulled back. I scrambled to find something to talk about so I asked him questions I already knew the answers to, he laughed and answered them again. He was the far opposite from the stereotyped thug, drug dealer prison bird. He was a hard worker, a well-spoken responsible black man, he had strong family values, morals, and virtues. I was successful, driven, and a go-getter… he was everything I wanted in a man… I was smitten at first sight, we never made it into the café that night. Instead we just stood outside talking and laughing. He had a sense of humor and he was irresistibly charming and witty. We got touchy that night, his lips were like butter melting over my lips. Our kisses were sensual and with every touch I felt like I was in outer space floating. His hands were warm and strong as he held my shoulders, hips, thighs, it was like he had a manual on me and knew exactly where all my erotic zones were, I discovered zones I never knew I had. The straw that broke me was when he kissed me on my neck, I swear I must have passed out. There was nothing keeping me from sleeping with him then and there in that parking lot, I couldn’t control myself except for the fact that I wasn’t use to being so free, and unreserved with a stranger. Usually all my old flings whatever you’d like to call them were friends, or friends of friends never someone met out at random. That’s a first. I held my composure even though he tried. When we left each other that night, I knew there was something special about him, I had to have him in all my life I’ve never met someone like him. This night set the tone for our explosive sexisodes to come…

 

MSB pt2 - Mr. Big

Mr. Big

So newly single, fresh of the train, I was working at an event for one of my clients in. Hot summer day, in Chicago heated yet slightly windy city. I had on my black tights, comfy off the shoulder hoody shirt, black work boots, and my I didn’t bother to comb my hair, because I was just hear to work and not date cap on my head, pretty much my Janet Jackson “Pleasure Principle “outfit. It was the usual, hi sexy, your cute, what do you do request from men who could care less about me as a person and more about nailing me in the back of their cars and that was all good for me, I mean who doesn’t like positive reinforcement regardless where its coming from or their true intentions. Their tacky lines got them a smile, a giggle, and O stop, which to me was an appropriate form of payment for their efforts. Then I stumbled onto this guy. 6ft tall, black, big guy, total not the kind of guy I would go for. He had dreads down to the middle of his back. He wasn’t goggle eyeing me or even really looking my way so when he called me over I immediately assumed he was interested in the show we were filming and not me. But he wasn’t, instead he said the most inappropriate uncomfortable statement ever. He whispered in my ear “is all that in your pants your” I immediately looked down, then up, and then around. Was what was on every guy mind out here, was everyone looking at my crotch, I felt naked. Embarrassed!! Like I need to go home and change and then and there my comfy outfit turned into a desperate call for all me to flirt with my buff crotch!!! Awwww!! I just wanted to die, but in the mist of my freak out, I could help but notice that he said such an obscene comment but managed not to be rude or disgusting actually he smiled and said “I was just curious”? His smile was quite charming. He asked me for my number and I gave it to him. And this was the start of my now smitten love saga that has me head over heels and crazy about Mr. Big.

 

Weeks followed we phone chatted, text, and conversed on all sorts of random subjects. As our conversations grow deeper so did my interest in this fascinating free spirited family guy. He was close to his family just like I was. He had this sense of adventure and danger that struck my usually very careful, well thought out, never wanting to do anything that’s too out of the box self. As we talked I grow more and more interested.

MSB pt1 - Intro

Intro...

So as I embrace my singleness and free spirited newly reformed life, I decided to hop on my own journey of many shade of black as I keenly decided to name this series of a single woman love adventures. Well maybe I should start by introducing myself my name is Mattie and I’m a Public Relations Professional that works for myself at What Matters PR. Now 35 years old this is the first time I’ve ever been single… well not attached to someone else as I like to call it. I walked out of a 13 year marriage, 1 because we cheated, 2 because he had a child not with me, and 3 because he wasn’t the one for me and we both knew it we were just scared to leave each other after all we were middle school sweethearts who grow together. Our families we like one, our friends were one in the same, I mean every inch of our lives were intertwined in some shape or form. We were extremely comfortable we owned property together, stocks, bonds, he was truly my best friend, but we were more like best friends than husband and wife. Our daily route was just that things we felt we should do simply because you ought-to. None of us had the balls to live each other, what would our family say, I mean we had other couples modeling their relationships of off our “perfect” union. We communicated extremely well I could almost finish his sentences. He was a beauty to the eyes, gorgeous 5ft 9 caramel greenish gray eyes chiseled body, just perfect physically in every way. He was a heartthrob and we were a beautiful couple. What can I say, there was still something missing. But the world of dating wasn’t new to him or me since we’ve cheated on each other the last 6 years of our marriage, I can say I’ve had my share of relationships and I was truly not new to the man eat woman game of life. Except for the fact that men never really mattered much to me because they were all temporary fills, or simpler put they were for my enjoyment only, after all I was taken!

So, now that I’m single I promised myself that I would not settle for less than what was perfect for me. And the next time I get married if ever it will be for all the right reasons. Dam it if I’m going to do it again I’m going to do it right.

Ok now back to the world of Many Shade of Black a single woman dating adventure series… uncensored… nonjudgmental… and simply just my life my opinions.

 

 

Have you lost your Ex and want her back well…

 

If you're still in love with your ex and tried to fix your relationship, seeing her run off and date someone else can really sting. If you still want her back you must first get past the fact that she's with another guy, and then move toward creating a scenario in which your ex will want you again. These two things take time and effort, and unfortunately it's not going to happen overnight. But if you're dedicated to one day dating your ex-girlfriend again? The following guidelines will help you get started.

Accept Her New Relationship - Nothing and I mean absolutely nothing you can say right now is going to change your ex-girlfriend's mind about her new man. She's going to date him despite your best efforts to tell her not to. Even worse, every word you say trying to convince her otherwise is going to drive the wedge between the two of you deeper and deeper. This will make things harder later on, when you're trying to win back your girlfriend. By accepting the fact that she's moved on, you're letting her know that you're not going to interfere with her life. This will eventually allow her to trust you again: an important part of getting back together.

Understand That She's Rebounding - If your ex starts dating another guy within a few weeks after you've broken up, chances are she's involved in a rebound relationship. This is actually good. It means that she's never really had the time alone to resolve your own relationship in her head, so feelings for you are probably still rattling around in there. During the initial phases of her new romance (the honeymoon stage) she honestly won't think of you much. But as time goes on, your ex will miss you again - especially if you follow the next rule and disappear for a while.

Drop Out of Your Ex-Girlfriend's Sight - During the beginning stages of her new relationship, there's nothing for you to do but wait. Instead of sitting around in plain sight or desperately clinging to your ex-girlfriend "as a friend", the best thing to do is completely vanish from her view. Don't lock the door to your house and feel sorry for yourself; go out and see friends, pick up old hobbies, hit the gym, and do things to get your mind off the situation. Just be sure to turn off your phone, disconnect from the internet, and don't answer any of your ex-girlfriend's calls, emails, or text-messages. And if she doesn't call? That's normal too. Because right now she's involved with a new guy and although she's preoccupied it's very possible that her rebound relationship won't last. When that happens, she'll be looking around for you. Being scarce will help your cause when you finally do reconnect.

Befriend Your Ex - Eventually, enough time will pass that your ex will seek you out. If not, there are also ways of reestablishing a connection with her without her realizing that you did it. When you do talk again, it may be through email or text message (to avoid her new boyfriend finding out). That's okay, keep things cool and casual. Making your ex comfortable right now will go miles and miles toward getting her back into your inner circle. Getting close to your ex again is required if you're going to get her back.

Build Neutral Trust With Her - The conversations you have with your ex-girlfriend will begin as innocent small talk, but will eventually progress into each of you talking about your lives in more detail. She'll mention her new boyfriend and you'll need to do one thing: never, ever say anything bad about him. Do that just once and your ex might never talk about her life again, which isn't what you want. If she wants to praise him? Let her. If she wants to bitch about her ex? Let her do that too. Don't agree with her, just be there as a neutral forum for her to bounce her thoughts off of. Over time, you'll start to see cracks in her armor... holes in her new relationship. Knowing what these are will help you later on, when you're meeting up with your ex to talk about things.

Search The Past For That Original Spark - What's the biggest advantage you have in trying to win back your ex-girlfriend? Your past history together. Somewhere back there are some very bright sparks that once ignited the relationship you once had. Search through the ruins of your broken romance and find them. Then, as casually as possible, begin planting these sparks as seeds back into the soil of this new friendship you've developed with your ex. Don't go overboard, and don't go too fast. Be very conscious of how she reacts to you talking about old times. However, if you can hit on the right moments? She's going to think long and hard about those great times together. Way after she hangs up with you, she'll start thinking back to all the incredible experiences the two of you shared - and these are things she can continue to share with only one person - you.

 

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Sex and Health

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure

Having sex could lower your stress, and your blood pressure.

That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations, such as speaking in public and doing math out loud, and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.

Another study published in the same journal found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and often have sex. And yet another study found that women who get lots of hugs from their partner tend to have better blood pressure.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. 

So say scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa. They studied 112 college students who kept records of how often they had sex and also provided saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infections, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories

Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.

"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health

Having sex may be good for your heart. A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex twice or more a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month.

And although some older folks may worry that the sex could cause a stroke, that study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke. 

5. Better Self-Esteem

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.

"One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with self-esteem. ... If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

Of course, you don't have to have lots of sex to feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is all about you -- not someone else. But if you're already feeling good about yourself, a great sex life may help you feel even better.

6. Deeper Intimacy

Having sex and orgasms boosts levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps people bond and build trust.

In a study of 59 women, researchers checked their oxytocin levels before and after the women hugged their partners. The women had higher oxytocin levels if they had more of that physical contact with their partner.

Higher oxytocin levels have also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So snuggle up -- it might help you feel more generous toward your partner.

7. Sex May Turn Down Pain

Here's another thing the love hormone, oxytocin, does: It boosts your body's painkillers, called endorphins. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, that may be why.

In one study, 48 people inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked. The oxytocin cut their pain threshold by more than half.

8. More Ejaculations May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely

Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may lower the risk of getting prostate cancer later in life, some research shows.

For instance, a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that men who had 21 or more ejaculations a month, were less likely to get prostate cancer than those who had four to seven ejaculations per month.

Of course, that study doesn't prove that ejaculations were the only factor that mattered. Many things affect a person's odds of developing cancer. The researchers did take that into consideration, and the findings still held.

9. Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

For women, doing pelvic floor muscle exercises called Kegels may mean will enjoy more pleasure -- and, as a perk, less chance of incontinence later in life.

To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.

10. Better Sleep

The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, research shows.

Getting enough sleep has also been linked with a host of other health perks, such as a healthy weight and better blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.

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Best Zodiac Signs to Have Sex With

Aries

Aries has a powerful and magnetic personality and because they love to take control, they make great kissers. Aries is enormously sexual for a very short period of time—you might say they’re flash-in-the-pan lovers.

They’re impatient, sometimes-selfish lovemaking can cause relationship problems. However, if you catch him or her when flames of desire are burning high, no other lover will provide such fiery passion for those few moments.

To seduce Aries, don’t be shy. Show that you have a brain. Always be spontaneous, too, since nothing excites an Aries like unpredictability, and don’t hold back on compliments.

Taurus

This is the most masculine of signs, which fuels its enormous sex drive. Which zodiac sign is the best lover? It might just be this one. Their appetite for intimacy seems insatiable and they need lots of physical touch; no rushing with this sign. To them, good love is like good food—worth taking some time to enjoy. They also have beautiful voices.

To seduce Taurus, give lots of presents and take advantage of their sensuality by always smelling good and having soft skin and a fresh minty mouth.

Gemini

Which zodiac sign is the best lover? If you like smart people, try Gemini. To get anywhere with Gemini, you need to be intelligent and witty. They are flirtation masters and can sweep you off your feet with a single touch.

Gemini’s mental capacity makes for a creative lover, so you’ll never get bored. Make sure your Gemini doesn’t get bored with you either, because they need constant change and excitement. Without it they can become tactless toward you.

To seduce Gemini, flatter them and focus on their mind. Subtly compliment their smarts, ask their advice, and don’t forget to play up your own intelligence.

Cancer

This is the most emotional and sensitive of signs. They need soft, loving touch, a deep emotional bond, and a partner who is caring and committed to doing good deeds. They make sweet and nurturing lovers, but if you break their trust they stop at nothing to get revenge.

To seduce Cancer, focus on romantic atmosphere and sentimentality. They enjoy being taken care of, so feeding and protecting them works wonders.

Leo

For most people, this is which zodiac sign, which is the best lover. They constantly burn with a fiery passion and are sexually confident and powerful. They take charge in bed and explore sexual pleasures with dramatic, large-scale flair.

They constantly shower their lovers with gifts and attention. Seducing a Leo is fairly simple; they need continuous personal attention. To get on their soft side, try playing with their luxurious hair.

Virgo

If you are ready to be someone’s entire world, no other lover will give you such personal attention. They seem cool and calm on the surface but they are enormously sensual underneath.

However, they are not everyone’s ideal of the zodiac sign, which is the best lover. Virgo becomes obsessed with one person and although their perfectionism means that life will not always be pleasant, you can be sure they fall in love for life.

To seduce Virgo, be as clean and neat and perfect as possible. They are extremely picky.

Libra

As a people pleaser, Libra makes a very attentive and affectionate lover. They are full of sentimental romantic notions, so be patient with them and try to fulfill their fantasies. Since Libra is a natural flirt, they like to try fun experiments in bed.

To seduce Libra, give them good old-fashioned high-class romance. You need to be sophisticated, suave, and smooth. Since Libra is naturally attractive, it shouldn’t be hard to show them a good time with style.

Scorpio

Scorpio is the most sexual of all the signs. For many people this makes them the zodiac sign, which is the best lover. Others may feel manipulated or used for sex, as Scorpio sometimes will do.

They have magnetic, irresistible personalities and make fantastic lovers in the physical sense, but sometimes they come off as emotionally distant.

Seducing Scorpio is notoriously difficult, because with their animal charm and manipulative powers they are the ones that usually do the seducing.

Sagittarius

This sign is playful and childlike, and as a lover they will always be creative. They stay young at heart, so they are very open-minded when it comes to experiments in bed. Their split personality means that they can be wildly passionate about someone for a while, then all of a sudden get the urge to move on to other adventures.

They do not have much staying power in a relationship. If all you are looking for is a fun fling, this could be the zodiac sign, which is the best lover for you.

To seduce Sagittarius, focus on the waist, hip and upper leg area, where they love to be touched. Also show a lighthearted approach to life and a great sense of humor, both of which they love.

Capricorn

The Capricorn is more reserved and needs to be deeply in love to consider physical intimacy. They do not tend to be open to adventurous experiments but on the plus side, they are steady and constant with their life partner.

To seduce a Capricorn, work hard and move slow. Focus on small touches and lingering looks and don’t give them everything right away. The gradual buildup will give you an extraordinary explosion.

Aquarius

This sign loves you for your body and doesn’t really care if a relationship exists before they have sex with you. They are all about wild physical passion and unpredictable romance. Their rebellious nature means that the more quirks you have, the better they’ll love you.

For a warm body and a fiery passion, this zodiac sign is the best lover. To seduce Aquarius, play hard to get.

Pisces

Pisces offers a loving physical relationship full of pleasure and satisfaction. They are extremely laid back and easygoing and just want a steady, happy partner. Once they find that kind of love, they will gladly solve every problem with make-up sex.

To seduce a Pisces, be aggressive. They are naturally lazy and don’t like much of a chase, so you’ll have to bring the chase to them.

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