Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Depression!!! It's Serious
I am blessed with the gift of helping others, understanding and relating to their stories, three years ago it was time for me to understand myself.
You must first learn who you are to help those in need. Now I am one with my inner self and helping others become one in theirs
Sunday, October 10, 2010
At what age do men grow up
Well Christie, it’s not really an age thing, it’s an experience and upbringing thing. Men can be responsible from a very young age if their parents trained them to be or if life gave them no other choice but to be. i.e a child, marriage, military, jail, or hardship that forces them to grow up before time. But unfortunately there is no time frame on when a man will grow up and become mature. Some do it early and some well lets just say I’ve seen senior citizen men that makes me go hhhmmm… I guess they never do!!!
Some men say they never really grow up they just give in to their women. Other differ saying that the statement men are immature doesn’t apply to all men just some… like the phrase all women are psycho, but not all are just most… lol
My advice to you is this: ask the questions that are important to you, and watch how he moves, you will never get your perfect man, but you will get someone who will compromise with you and try. Evaluate his morals, pass relationships, kids (if he has them), how he treats his mother, even his living habits. Then ask yourself is this what you want or do you have anything in common besides the lust or sexually attraction you are feeling right now. Just like they categorize us ask yourself is he marriage material even if you are not looking to jump the broom now you might what to later and then what.
I hope this helps…. Thanks for the question
Marijuana, Once Divisive, Brings Some Families Closer
Susan Montoya Bryan/Associated Press
Doctors are expecting to see more medical marijuana use, legal or illegal, depending on the jurisdiction, among elderly patients.
By JOHN LELAND
Published: October 9, 2010
Bryan, 46, a writer who lives in Illinois, began supplying his parents about five years ago, after he told them about his own marijuana use. When he was growing up, he said, his parents were very strict about illegal drugs.
“We would have grounded him,” said his mother, who is 72.
But with age and the growing acceptance of medical marijuana, his parents were curious. His father had a heart ailment, his mother had dizzy spells and nausea, and both were worried about Alzheimer’s disease and cancer. They looked at some research and decided marijuana was worth a try.
Bryan, who like others interviewed for this article declined to use his full name for legal reasons, began making them brownies and ginger snaps laced with the drug. Illinois does not allow medical use of marijuana, though 14 states and the District of Columbia do. At their age, his mother said, they were not concerned about it leading to harder drugs, which had been one of their worries with Bryan.
“We have concerns about the law, but I would not go back to not taking the cookie and going through what I went through,” she said, adding that her dizzy spells and nausea had receded. “Of course, if they catch me, I’ll have to quit taking it.”
This family’s story is still a rare one. Less than 1 percent of people 65 and over said they had smoked marijuana in the last year, according to a 2009 survey by the federal Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. But as the generation that embraced marijuana as teenagers passes into middle age, doctors expect to see more marijuana use by their elderly patients.
“I think use of medical marijuana in older people is going to be much greater in the future,” said Dan G. Blazer, a professor of geriatric psychology at Duke University who has studied drug use and abuse among older people.
The rate for people ages 50 to 65 who said they smoke marijuana was nearly 4 percent — about six times as high as the 65-and-over crowd — suggesting that they were more likely to continue whatever patterns of drug use they had established in their younger years. In both age groups, the rate of marijuana abuse was very low, about 1 in 800.
Cannabinoids, the active agents in marijuana, have shown promise as pain relievers, especially for pain arising from nerve damage, said Dr. Seddon R. Savage, a pain specialist and president of the American Pain Society, a medical professionals’ group.
Two cannabinoid prescription drugs are approved for use in this country, but only to treat nausea or appetite loss. And while preliminary research suggests that cannabinoids may help in fighting cancer and reducing spasms in people with multiple sclerosis or Parkinson’s disease, the results have been mixed.
Dr. Savage said doctors should be concerned about older patients using marijuana. “It’s putting people at risk of falls, impaired cognition, impaired memory, loss of motor control,” she said. “Beside the legal aspects, it’s unsupervised use of a pretty potent drug. Under almost all circumstances, there are alternatives that are just as effective.”
Dr. Savage added, however, that there was a considerable range of opinions about marijuana use among pain specialists, and that many favored it.
Older people may face special risks with marijuana, in part because of the secrecy that surrounds illegal drug use, said Dr. William Dale, section chief of geriatrics and palliative medicine at the University of Chicago Medical Center, who said he would not oppose a law allowing medical marijuana use in Illinois.
The drug raises users’ heart rates and lowers their blood pressure, so doctors needed to weigh its effects beside those of other medications that users might be taking, he said. But patients do not always confide their illegal drug use, he said.
“It’s a fine balance between being supportive of patients to gain their trust and giving them your best recommendations,” Dr. Dale said. “I wasn’t taught this in medical school.”
For some families, marijuana, which was once the root of all their battles, has brought them closer together. Instead of parental warnings and punishment, there are questions about how to light a water pipe; instead of the Grateful Dead, there are recipes for low-sodium brownies.
But for parents, there is also the knowledge that they are putting their children at risk of arrest.
“I was very uncomfortable getting my son involved,” said the father of Alex, 21. The father, who is 54, started using marijuana to relieve his pain from degenerative disc disease. He soon discovered that Alex, who lives in Minnesota a few miles away, had access to better marijuana than he did.
Alex’s father had smoked marijuana when he was younger; Alex, by contrast, had been active in antidrug groups at his school and church. In college, he started smoking infrequently and studying marijuana’s medicinal properties.
“When he told me he was using cannabis, I think he expected it to be a bigger deal for me,” Alex said. “But it opened my eyes to what he was going through.”
Before trying marijuana, Alex’s father took OxyContin, a narcotic, which he said made him “feel like a zombie.” He also took antidepressants to relieve the mood disorder he associated with the OxyContin. Marijuana has helped him cut down on the painkillers, he said.
He and Alex have smoked together twice, but it is not a regular practice, both said. Yet they say the drug has strengthened their relationship.
“We spend our bonding time making brownies,” Alex said.
Florence, 89, an artist who lives in New York, smokes mainly for relief from her spinal stenosis — usually one or two puffs before going to sleep, she said. She buys her pipes through an online shop and gets her marijuana from her daughter, Loren, who is 65.
“A person brings it to me,” said Loren, who uses marijuana recreationally. “I’m not out on a street corner.” Florence said that she had told all of her doctors that she was using marijuana, and that none had ever discouraged her or warned of interactions with her prescription drugs, including painkillers.
“I think I’ve influenced my own physician on the subject,” she said. “She came to me and asked me for some for another patient.”
SOURCE
Beenie Segal going back to jail????
The charges state that the Philadelphia rapper made about $1.5 million in those two years, but didn’t pay taxes.
The rapper was hit with the federal charges Wednesday.
"Federal prosecutors in Philadelphia say the entertainer born Dwight Grant made $1.5 million from 2002 to 2004, but filed no tax returns," said the Associated Press.
Sigel may not have intentionally failed to pay taxes, his lawyer Fortunato N. Perri., Jr. told the Philadelphia Daily News.
"I don't think he's being targeted, he just needs to get his personal business and tax affairs cleaned up," Perri said. "While he was in prison, other individuals were handling his finances.”
"Some of the business relationships he had with some of the players involved makes it more difficult," Perri said. "We're trying to resolve the issues as quick as we can."
Sigel, 36, may serve to three years in prison and a fine of $300,000 if convicted.
SOURCE
How To Repair Hairline Breakage
How To Repair Hairline Breakage
By Chantel McGee on Oct 8th 2010 2:00PM
Whether you're a celebrity who consistently wears weaves or a girl who likes to get her hair did on the regular, at some point in time you've probably dealt with hairline breakage. It happens to the best of us, just ask Naomi Campbell. Before you can treat hair breakage properly, you have to get to the root of the problem (no pun intended). There are a variety of causes of hair breakage ranging from harsh chemicals from perms and relaxers; permanent hair color; pressure or pulling from braids and weaves, wigs and medical conditions like Alopecia and Lupus.
If you've linked your hairline breakage to chemical damage, you'll want to stop using any potentially harmful products in your hair for at least two to three months.
It may be difficult to live without a relaxer for an extended period, but in the meantime try Razac Perfect for Perms Finishing Creme ($6.99, BeautyofNewYork.com) to keep your hair looking straight and shiny. You might also want to try sleeping on a silk pillowcase to reduce breakage caused by rough fabrics that pull at your hair while you sleep.
If your thinning edges are the result of braids, weaves or wigs, try to avoid having your hair braided too close to your hairline. Your hairline is considered the weakest part of your hair and it isn't really equip to handle excessive strain or pull.
If you want your hair to grow back quickly try using Magical Gro by African Pride ($5.99, Walgreens.com).
Also, deep condition your hair once a week with either Mizani Kerafuse Protein Treatment ($21.56, Just4Beauty.com)
or Motions CPR ($5.99, BeautyofNewYork.com). If you're still unsure what is causing your breakage, consult your doctor or stylist.
Fortunately there are tons of products on the market to conceal your breaking hairline ranging from spray on hair colors, to hair dyes and cover-sticks. If you want to save some money, use mascara to lightly fill in the thinning area. If you choose a color that closely matches your hair, people will be less likely to notice. Try to be creative by wearing your hair in styles that hide your breakage. And remember, your hair will grow back! You just have to be patient.
Source
By Chantel McGee on Oct 8th 2010 2:00PM
Whether you're a celebrity who consistently wears weaves or a girl who likes to get her hair did on the regular, at some point in time you've probably dealt with hairline breakage. It happens to the best of us, just ask Naomi Campbell. Before you can treat hair breakage properly, you have to get to the root of the problem (no pun intended). There are a variety of causes of hair breakage ranging from harsh chemicals from perms and relaxers; permanent hair color; pressure or pulling from braids and weaves, wigs and medical conditions like Alopecia and Lupus.
If you've linked your hairline breakage to chemical damage, you'll want to stop using any potentially harmful products in your hair for at least two to three months.
It may be difficult to live without a relaxer for an extended period, but in the meantime try Razac Perfect for Perms Finishing Creme ($6.99, BeautyofNewYork.com) to keep your hair looking straight and shiny. You might also want to try sleeping on a silk pillowcase to reduce breakage caused by rough fabrics that pull at your hair while you sleep.
If your thinning edges are the result of braids, weaves or wigs, try to avoid having your hair braided too close to your hairline. Your hairline is considered the weakest part of your hair and it isn't really equip to handle excessive strain or pull.
If you want your hair to grow back quickly try using Magical Gro by African Pride ($5.99, Walgreens.com).
Also, deep condition your hair once a week with either Mizani Kerafuse Protein Treatment ($21.56, Just4Beauty.com)
or Motions CPR ($5.99, BeautyofNewYork.com). If you're still unsure what is causing your breakage, consult your doctor or stylist.
Fortunately there are tons of products on the market to conceal your breaking hairline ranging from spray on hair colors, to hair dyes and cover-sticks. If you want to save some money, use mascara to lightly fill in the thinning area. If you choose a color that closely matches your hair, people will be less likely to notice. Try to be creative by wearing your hair in styles that hide your breakage. And remember, your hair will grow back! You just have to be patient.
Source
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Official Willow Smith "Whip My Hair" Teaser | WillowSmith.com
I Like this song...I saw Two Thumbs Up... I'm whippin it girl!!! lol
Rihanna - Only Girl (In The World) (Teaser Video)
So this is my song of the week... I'm loving it!!!!
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Hot or Not???
Would you where these boots???
CHRISTIAN LOUBOUTIN - Toundra - Coyote Trim Boots - $2,095.00 USD
Do our color still play a factor???
"I copied and paste this article from the New York Times, do you agree with his findings remember it is an opinion"
The Seat Not Taken
By JOHN EDGAR WIDEMAN
Published: October 6, 2010
AT least twice a week I ride Amtrak’s high-speed Acela train from my home in New York City to my teaching job in Providence, R.I. The route passes through a region of the country populated by, statistics tell us, a significant segment of its most educated, affluent, sophisticated and enlightened citizens.
Brian Cronin
Over the last four years, excluding summers, I have conducted a casual sociological experiment in which I am both participant and observer. It’s a survey I began not because I had some specific point to prove by gathering data to support it, but because I couldn’t avoid becoming aware of an obvious, disquieting truth.
Almost invariably, after I have hustled aboard early and occupied one half of a vacant double seat in the usually crowded quiet car, the empty place next to me will remain empty for the entire trip.
I’m a man of color, one of the few on the train and often the only one in the quiet car, and I’ve concluded that color explains a lot about my experience. Unless the car is nearly full, color will determine, even if it doesn’t exactly clarify, why 9 times out of 10 people will shun a free seat if it means sitting beside me.
Giving them and myself the benefit of the doubt, I can rule out excessive body odor or bad breath; a hateful, intimidating scowl; hip-hop clothing; or a hideous deformity as possible objections to my person. Considering also the cost of an Acela ticket, the fact that I display no visible indications of religious preference and, finally, the numerous external signs of middle-class membership I share with the majority of the passengers, color appears to be a sufficient reason for the behavior I have recorded.
Of course, I’m not registering a complaint about the privilege, conferred upon me by color, to enjoy the luxury of an extra seat to myself. I relish the opportunity to spread out, savor the privacy and quiet and work or gaze at the scenic New England woods and coast. It’s a particularly appealing perk if I compare the train to air travel or any other mode of transportation, besides walking or bicycling, for negotiating the mercilessly congested Northeast Corridor. Still, in the year 2010, with an African-descended, brown president in the White House and a nation confidently asserting its passage into a postracial era, it strikes me as odd to ride beside a vacant seat, just about every time I embark on a three-hour journey each way, from home to work and back.
I admit I look forward to the moment when other passengers, searching for a good seat, or any seat at all on the busiest days, stop anxiously prowling the quiet-car aisle, the moment when they have all settled elsewhere, including the ones who willfully blinded themselves to the open seat beside me or were unconvinced of its availability when they passed by. I savor that precise moment when the train sighs and begins to glide away from Penn or Providence Station, and I’m able to say to myself, with relative assurance, that the vacant place beside me is free, free at last, or at least free until the next station. I can relax, prop open my briefcase or rest papers, snacks or my arm in the unoccupied seat.
But the very pleasing moment of anticipation casts a shadow, because I can’t accept the bounty of an extra seat without remembering why it’s empty, without wondering if its emptiness isn’t something quite sad. And quite dangerous, also, if left unexamined. Posters in the train, the station, the subway warn: if you see something, say something.
John Edgar Wideman is a professor of Africana studies and literary arts at Brown and the author, most recently, of “Briefs.
The Seat Not Taken
By JOHN EDGAR WIDEMAN
Published: October 6, 2010
AT least twice a week I ride Amtrak’s high-speed Acela train from my home in New York City to my teaching job in Providence, R.I. The route passes through a region of the country populated by, statistics tell us, a significant segment of its most educated, affluent, sophisticated and enlightened citizens.
Brian Cronin
Over the last four years, excluding summers, I have conducted a casual sociological experiment in which I am both participant and observer. It’s a survey I began not because I had some specific point to prove by gathering data to support it, but because I couldn’t avoid becoming aware of an obvious, disquieting truth.
Almost invariably, after I have hustled aboard early and occupied one half of a vacant double seat in the usually crowded quiet car, the empty place next to me will remain empty for the entire trip.
I’m a man of color, one of the few on the train and often the only one in the quiet car, and I’ve concluded that color explains a lot about my experience. Unless the car is nearly full, color will determine, even if it doesn’t exactly clarify, why 9 times out of 10 people will shun a free seat if it means sitting beside me.
Giving them and myself the benefit of the doubt, I can rule out excessive body odor or bad breath; a hateful, intimidating scowl; hip-hop clothing; or a hideous deformity as possible objections to my person. Considering also the cost of an Acela ticket, the fact that I display no visible indications of religious preference and, finally, the numerous external signs of middle-class membership I share with the majority of the passengers, color appears to be a sufficient reason for the behavior I have recorded.
Of course, I’m not registering a complaint about the privilege, conferred upon me by color, to enjoy the luxury of an extra seat to myself. I relish the opportunity to spread out, savor the privacy and quiet and work or gaze at the scenic New England woods and coast. It’s a particularly appealing perk if I compare the train to air travel or any other mode of transportation, besides walking or bicycling, for negotiating the mercilessly congested Northeast Corridor. Still, in the year 2010, with an African-descended, brown president in the White House and a nation confidently asserting its passage into a postracial era, it strikes me as odd to ride beside a vacant seat, just about every time I embark on a three-hour journey each way, from home to work and back.
I admit I look forward to the moment when other passengers, searching for a good seat, or any seat at all on the busiest days, stop anxiously prowling the quiet-car aisle, the moment when they have all settled elsewhere, including the ones who willfully blinded themselves to the open seat beside me or were unconvinced of its availability when they passed by. I savor that precise moment when the train sighs and begins to glide away from Penn or Providence Station, and I’m able to say to myself, with relative assurance, that the vacant place beside me is free, free at last, or at least free until the next station. I can relax, prop open my briefcase or rest papers, snacks or my arm in the unoccupied seat.
But the very pleasing moment of anticipation casts a shadow, because I can’t accept the bounty of an extra seat without remembering why it’s empty, without wondering if its emptiness isn’t something quite sad. And quite dangerous, also, if left unexamined. Posters in the train, the station, the subway warn: if you see something, say something.
John Edgar Wideman is a professor of Africana studies and literary arts at Brown and the author, most recently, of “Briefs.
Break up lines - Do we still use these
- “Hmmm, I'm just not sure I want to do this anymore..."
- “I'm just not feeling IT anymore - so I want a divorce".
- “I love you but I am not IN LOVE with you ."
- "My dick is committed to you but my heart is not."
- "You are the only really good girl I've ever met; I will probably never meet anyone like you again. You are really marriage material. If we stay together, we will get married in a few years, BUT I'm not sure I am ready to commit to one person."
- "Sorry I stopped contacting you. I had to go back to rehab”
- "Dating you is killing who I am."
- "She's exactly like you used to be - before you became a bitch."
- “I think you love me more than I love you."
- "We both have some of the qualities we want, but not all of them."
- "I don't want the responsibility of someone else's happiness."
- "Really, it's not you, I'm just going through a selfish phase..."
- "I feel like this break up has made our relationship so much stronger."
- "I really like you, you're a lovely woman and we have great fun - you're just not a long-term prospect."
- "Maybe we have too much in common. We are too much alike."
- "I don't want you to feel like I'm breaking up with you. I just can't be in a relationship with you anymore."
- "I know it took me two years to finally get you out on a date, but now I'm feeling tied down..."
- "I just cant live with the pathetic tickles that you call 'sexual thrusts' anymore"
- "I can't be with you because you are graduating and I never went to college."
- "Life is too short to make mistakes."
- "Music is just more important to me than you are. But I love you so, so much as a friend."
- “Our lives are heading in two different directions I think its best we break up.”
Jenn is looking Fab!!!
I am amazed and impressed with Jennifer Hudson. She looks amazing, she is like a size two now. I think she looks great.
Monday, October 4, 2010
Juggling
1- You will need a note pad ?Y? Because you must write everything down
2- Plan your day from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep.
3- Schedule everything I mean everything… what your cooking for dinner, what time you’re going to bath, sleep, ect…
4-balance your life you cannot do everything every day.
5-plan time on your days off to do something special with your loved ones – something as simple as watching TV or cuddling in bed with the family, taking a stroll, or eating together.
6- Do what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. If you miss it and it can be done another day do it another day.
7- Get enough sleep.
8- Take some YOU time- take a long bath, surf the web for random whatever, shop, go have a social lunch, do something that relaxes you.
9- Organize a life healthy plan- this is vital to your life. Exercise and a well balance meal plan will help you feel like you.
10-And remember at the end of the day your –yourself, family and friend are important so stay close
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