Many women and men when we enter into a relationship we feel
compel to give our all. Your trust, love, faithfulness, body, heart, and soul…
but slow down.
Privilege 1) Getting to know you
A new relationship should be spent learning each other
defining, if you truly like each other, in other words getting to know the
person beyond the bed, the smile, the laugh, their outer appearance. As your
relationship progresses so should your privileges. And just because you acted
out in the midst of passion doesn’t mean you have to continue it. Allow each
other the space to make decision on is this the one. Go on dates, seek out each
other’s interest then pursue them together. Learn each other’s “first ways”.
*Never rush to live together, share bank accounts together, and
start a family together before knowing if this is what you want to do forever.
Privilege 2) Lets take it slow
When you are (sure), you can take the steps towards sharing
these live changing things. You can start a separate bank account together, but
keep your own separate accounts. Ladies allow the man to make the next step solely
on his own, let him engage, don’t force the issue, and let it happen. Men allow
the woman to commit to you, don’t scare her, con her, and mislead her. If you
have been waiting too long i.e. 4-6 years for an engagement, for that
commitment, then you should have that conversation on what is blocking the next
step in your lives together.
*When you take it slow you make the better decisions in life,
and the fear of losing that person should never be a question, if you are both
feeding your relationship.
Privilege 3) Your house or mine
Living together should be after you are both serious about
taking the next step ~ marriage~. I recommended that after an engagement two
people should live together to see the “true ways” of the other person, because
their “first ways” that has been shown to you in the beginning and through your
relationship thus far are far more different sometimes than their “true ways”.
*Also, know that having a child together does not mean you
are locked in, unfortunately, there is always the possibility that it may not
work, so basing your decision on whether you are stay in a relationship because
of a child is in almost every case a bad decision.
Privilege 4) Lets get it on
Getting married the ultimate decision… women we live for it,
men we close our eyes and step into it. Know that this is a decision you want
to make once. So, choosing wisely, and taking it seriously is very important to
the maintenance and survival of your marriage.
*Important notes
- Sex is determined by you and only you…
- Just because you may have started your relationship wrong, does mean you have to continue living it wrong
- Your life is what you make it
- If you are the only keeping the commitments asked of your relationship then you should exit stage right and leave that relationship
- Communication, finance, and trust are the true measure of if a relationship is going to last, because as you progress in your relationships you will get comfortable, relax and your love for the other person matures overtime through different stages
- You have to be honest to yourself and not selfish to your partner, if you’re not ready it far better to say it now than forever hold it and live them in the dark and alone
- Appreciate the one you are with if you truly want to be their
- Remember tomorrow is never promised to no man or woman
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