Of course I realize, not everyone is in a relationship and there are some of us who are single and loving it. So, after reading this article from Glamour.com, I wanted to share some dating tips with all my single peeps out there. These tips were complied from some of glamour's contributing relationship writers. Enjoy:
1.
DON’T get ahead of yourself.
It’s OK to get excited before you go
out with someone new, but stay realistic. As pessimistic as this sounds, if
your expectations are low, then a good date will be a welcome surprise and a
bad date will be no biggie.—DearSugar
2. DO be open to unexpected date ideas.
A homemade meal, PBR and Guitar Hero
might be a better way to get to know each other than the standard restaurant
and a movie. Plus, are you really going to ask someone to take you out for
filets, cocktails and the theater in this economy? —Tom Miller, Tango’s Daily Dish
3.
DON’T go somewhere overflowing with eye candy.
A while ago I took a girl out to
brunch at a restaurant that is always brimming with beautiful hipsters.
Naturally, there was a Kate Hudson look-alike sitting behind my date, right in
my line of vision. Even worse, she was wearing this crazy low-cut dress, and
when she leaned forward I could see her entire breast—maintaining eye
contact has never been more of a struggle.—Ryan Dodge, Single-ish
4. DO wear flats.
Although heels can be super sexy, you
never know where a first date will lead you. I’ve been on first dates that
ended with a lovely walk around town (hello, blisters!) or a visit to a
neighborhood playground (tripping all over myself!). Flats will let you feel
open to anything the night may bring.—Joanna Goddard, Smitten
5. DO wear sexy underwear.
Even if you don’t shed your clothes,
your non-Hanes undies will give you confidence. Plus, if you do end up
stripping down to your skivvies, you DON’T want to end up wearing granny
panties a la Bridget Jones.—Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson, authors of
Dating
Makes You Want to Die (But You Have to Do It Anyway
6. DO bring dental supplies with you.
I once ordered a shredded beef
burrito and there was a string of meat stuck in my teeth. I would’ve excused
myself to the bathroom to fix it, but I hadn’t brought my floss with me. So I
sat there, not listening to him and going crazy. Now I bring mints, gum, spray,
floss—everything. Seriously. Besides, you never know if you’ll want to make
out.—Erin Meanley, Single-ish
7. DO call a friend for a pep talk.
If you’re suffering from first-date
jitters, ring a friend for a few words of encouragement before you meet the
guy. Before my first dates, you’d always find me in a cab on the phone with my
mom, with her telling me the guy would be crazy not to adore me. Even though
she had to say that (she is my mom), a few positive words made me walk into my
date with confidence.—Joanna Goddard, Smitten
8. DON’T wear anything too sexy over the underwear.
You are not going to a club on a
first date—we hope! So don’t dress in a way that inspires him to grind against
you to Rihanna’s newest song. —Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson, authors
of Dating
Makes You Want to Die (But You Have to Do It Anyway)
9. DO Facebook him.
Try not to confuse what he tells you
and what you read about him. If you run out of things to talk about, maybe
mention a YouTube video that he has on his page.—Tom Miller, Tango’s Daily Dish
10. But DON’T let him know you’ve been Google-stalking him all week.
Look, we know that you’ve been
investigating this guy online since you learned his last name. (We don’t blame
you, and chances are he’s done the same to you.) But if you start in on his
alma mater, favorite bands and how his hair looked in 2004 (that was found
thanks to your mad skills at image searching), you are going to creep him out.
Big-time.—Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson, authors of Dating
Makes You Want to Die (But You Have to Do It Anyway
11. DON’T drink and date.
One glass of wine is fine. Two or
more could lead to sudden, instant and otherwise immediate death of a potential
relationship. My friend Katherine is a smart and beautiful girl, but whenever
she has a few drinks, she starts swearing like a sailor. If she were not a
little tipsy, she would never talk so trashy. Guys are instantly turned off by
her behavior, and she often wonders why first dates never turn into seconds.—Jess
McCann, author of You
Lost Him at Hello
12. DO have a positive attitude.
I tried to plan a really neat first
date—something different. So I pick her up, and it’s cold out, and the
restaurant I was going to take her to is closed. We’re in an abandoned area,
and it’s cold; I’m not looking so good right now. Finally we find a place to
eat, except the menu is all in Korean. We point to something and what comes out
tastes like rubber chicken. Then, when we get to the bowling alley, it seems
like we’re the only non-gang members there. But it was an amazing date because
she was cool. Her positive attitude dictated how the date would go.—Evan
Marc Katz, dating coach and author of Why
You’re Still Single
13. DO order a big-girl meal.
Do you really think a puny salad will
hold you over all night?—The Frisky
14. DON’T question his height.
If he’s 5’10” on his driver’s
license, and in his heart, suspend your disbelief. Feel free to store it for
something to make fun of later. —Tom Miller, Tango’s Daily Dish
15.
DO act interested in what he is saying.
No one wants to go on a first date
with the human equivalent of a dead-fish handshake. If you don’t like where the
date is headed, end it early. But if you are tired, hung over or depressed
about the economic apocalypse, don’t let it affect your time together. Talk.
Ask questions. Make eye contact.—Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson,
authors of Dating
Makes You Want to Die (But You Have to Do It Anyway)
16. DON’T turn your dates into therapy sessions.
My friend Isabel just had the worst
year of her life: She had foreclosed on her house and was in serious debt.
Whenever she was out with a guy, she would unload all her frustrations right on
his plate! No one wants to hear you ramble on about your sick cat, annoying
boss or stalker ex-boyfriend. If she was hoping for a second date, Isabel
should’ve asked more questions and done more listening than talking. —Jess
McCann, author of You
Lost Him at Hello
17. On that note, DON’T psychoanalyze your date.
A guy once got all Freud on me and
asked me if I had trouble getting close to men because of my relationship with
my father. Totally inappropriate, considering we’d just met.—The Frisky
18. But DON’T get too personal.
One woman on our message boards
reminisced about a guy who asked her how many kids she wanted. “I’m hoping for
at least one little girl,” he added. Sweet…yet a tad premature. Another woman
wanted to know if it was normal that a guy asked her about her credit score and
credit limit. Yeah, not normal.—Josey Miller, iVillage’s Sex on My Desk
19. DON’T talk about your ex.
No good can come of this! You’ll seem
either bitter, heartless or still hung-up—and any one of these is a huge
turnoff.—Em and Lo, Daily Bedpost
20. No, really, DON’T talk about your ex.
“Hypotheticals” that start with
“would you”or “can you believe” are transparent and indicate that your head is
somewhere else. So DON’T ask your date, “Would you ever, I mean ever, skip
someone’s cousin’s wedding to go to some Final Four game?”—Tom Miller, Tango’s Daily Dish
21. DO discuss issues that are important to you.
Why wait to find out that the two of
you don’t see eye to eye on something you feel passionately about?—The Frisky
22. DON’T talk about sex.
Unless you’re planning on having sex
on the first date, in which case you should definitely talk about your sexual
history. But if not, it’s nice to leave a little something to the
imagination—and to save something for the second date.—Em and Lo, Daily Bedpost
23. DON’T let him take you to a second location if you don’t like him.
Too often, I politely follow the guy
to another bar, and another, when really I just want to go home and read. It’s
better for both of you if you just speak up. —Erin Meanley, Single-ish
24. DON’T try to add him as a Facebook friend after the first date.
It will just freak him out and make
him feel like you’re trying to snoop on him (which of course you are…but that’s
what Google is for!).—Em and Lo, Daily
Bedpost
25. DO break the dating rules.
If you want to call him, call—he’ll
appreciate it. If you want to make the first move, do it—why not!—DearSugar
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